Sistah Teen Ministry
2BLOVED BY TEEN DIRECTOR, SHARNAE COAKLEY-HALL
For there is no love greater than God’s, “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning, great is your faithfulness” (Lamentations 3:22-23). Young ladies when you look into the mirror are you happy with what you see? Are you skinny enough, pretty enough, is your hair long enough or do you not even look into the mirror. For God made you in his image, perfectly, big or small, short or tall, dark or light complexion. He loves you for who you are not what you look like. You must first love yourself before anyone can truly love you. God will love you no matter what.
God desires for you to seek him and for you to depend on him. He does not want you to search for acceptance in a man. We all know times get hard and you get lonely and you desire to be physically held by a man. But if you seek God he will be your father, mother, lover, provider and your healer. God needs you to sustain from sexually active (fornication). Because fornication is a “work of the flesh,” it is naturally a temptation used by Satan to hinder the God’s children. “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18).
Your body is a holy temple and it belongs to God until you are married. Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body (1 Corinthians 6:13).
My young sisters television, the media and music industry makes it seem ok to half dress, aloud a man to call you out of your name, and sleep with as many people as possible for money. Don’t you dare aloud a man to define you, to direct your path, that’s not love that control. But this is just the way of the enemy to keep you bound and to stop your blessings from coming. It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God (Thessalonians 4:3-5).
Love yourself for who God made you to be. Seek Him in all thy ways and He will reveal Himself to you. Pray a prayer of faith.
Most gracious Father, we come to You asking for forgiveness of our sins. We offer up our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable in thy sight of our Lord. You are our Strength and our Redeemer. Oh God we bind the spirit of low self esteem, we bind the spirit of worthlessness, we bind the spirit of depression, and we bind the spirit of prostitution. Renew in us a clean heart and allow Your living waters to flow deep within us. We give You honor and glory for You are worthy to be praised.
Thank You for Your love, oh God, and allow us to have that same love one for another.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
I HAVE A BOYFRIEND, BUT I THINK I'M LESBIAN
You may wonder what is causing this unhealthy trend among teens and young women. When you live in a sex-saturated culture like we do, with sexual images inundating us on TV, in movies and magazines, it is no wonder that sex becomes a constant theme to analyze, ponder and generally obsess over.
Unless you are willing to completely remove yourself from society and live in a remote Bornean jungle or a cultic commune, you need to learn how to handle the sexual images that bombard your life and to understand the origins of the thoughts and feelings you experience. Defining your sexuality by the random thoughts, dreams and feelings you may have, that are fleeting if left alone, is always a mistake.
Many lesbian-identified women I know, and those who formerly identified as lesbian, experienced several years of same-sex attractions beginning around the ages of 10-12 before they experienced their first lesbian relationship. The teen nowadays who wonders about her sexuality does not usually have a history of same-sex attractions. She is simply the victim of a culture that sexualizes women from a very young age. Just look at dolls like Bratz and Ty Girlz that are geared for elementary-school aged girls, yet the dolls are dressed in skimpy dance-club clothes and caked with make-up. This early sexualization of girls is almost guaranteed to lead to sexual thoughts of various kinds.
Thoughts are dangerous only when we dwell on them. If we “take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,” moving beyond the sexual thought and on to more constructive thoughts, the power of the sexual thought is annihilated. Let us try an experiment. If I say, “Whatever you do, do not think about the giant, pink elephant in the room,” what happens in your mind? You start thinking about a giant, pink elephant, right? You can’t help it; neither can I. Telling anyone not to think about the pink elephant in the room will prompt them to think about nothing but the pink elephant. The same thing is going to happen when you are assailed with sexual images and seductive influences.
Many girls feel the need to question their sexuality in our modern-day culture. It is just what society has taught us to do in an attempt to normalize behaviors like homosexuality. Student groups aimed at promoting homosexuality among youth encourage “questioning” students to join their group and hear about the celebration of homosexuality. Attending a group that pushes you to further question your sexuality will surely influence the way you choose to define your sexuality.
Throughout our lives, we will have thoughts, dreams and feelings that disturb us. The best course of action is follow the example the apostle Paul gave us in Philippians, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (4:8), and let the unwelcome thoughts fade away.